Raise Your Game as a Father, Husband and Man w/ Alan Stein Jr.

This podcast is full of energy with my guest Alan Stein Jr. He brings his best game to his life, that of his family and in the way he shows up in the world. 

Alan Stein, Jr. is an experienced keynote speaker and author. At his core, he’s a performance coach with a passion for helping others change behaviors. He spent 15+ years working with the highest performing basketball players on the planet (including NBA superstars Kevin Durant, Steph Curry, and Kobe Bryant). Through his customized programs, he transfers his unique expertise to maximize both individual and organizational performance.

Alan is a dynamic storyteller who delivers practical, actionable lessons that can be implemented immediately. He teaches proven principles on how to utilize the same approaches in business that elite athletes use to perform at a world-class level.

The strategies from Alan’s book, Raise Your Game: High Performance Secrets from the Best of the Best, are implemented by both corporate and sports teams around the world.

What You’ll Learn

5:32 Interview Begins

5:40 Scary Stats as a Father

Larry shares a statistic that will make you shed a tear. 80% of your time with your kids is gone by the time they reach 12 years old. Think about that for a minute and let it sink in.

6:40 Quality over quantity

Alan shares what he does with the 20% he has to make it count with his kids, being intentional to work on the quality of that time he spends with them instead of the amount of it, especially being a co-parent.

8:33 Kid’s spell LOVE…

10:01 Candles Lighting Candles

Alan talks about why it is so important to create and sustain communities of men that lift each other and help carry ourselves to grow.

12:01 Humbled

Larry shares a story that made him feel very humbled and learned an important lesson from his son Mason.

16:17 The Failure is on Me

Alan talks about his time as a coach and when he would say, “I’ve told you a thousand times to do this,” he realized early on during his career that the failure was on him because he was not sending the right message. It is not what you say, it’s what they hear.

17:35 Agreements

Alan Stein Jr. explains why you need to create agreements with your children vs. using the old school dictatorship strategy. “Because I say so” isn’t going to cut it anymore.

19:13 Why Alan Writes

Alan conceptualizes a book based on his own experiences and he feels that most likely, the things he is going through, others are going through as well. He then puts those ideas into a book and boom!

21:01 The 3 Biggest Things that Undermine Growth

Alan has gotten to see both sides of the curtain. He knows what it takes to raise your game, but he also knows that it is different to stay there. The biggest deterrents from staying at the height of your game are, stress, stagnation and burnout.

23:22 Father’s on Call

A lot of men feel called to be someone who is always serving as if we are on-call all the time. We tend to forget that we also need to fill up our buckets. Alan Stein Jr. talks exactly about that in this part of the poscast.

27:50 Being Proactive in Taking Care of Ourselves

Alan Stein Jr. dives into why most men are not proactive in taking care of themselves and gives some tips on how to communicate better to serve this purpose.

31:31 Sustain Your Game & Guilt

Larry shares why shame and guilt is the one huge miss in our lives as men to sustain our game and be better at what we do.

Alan Stein Jr. suggests that in order to improve this, we need to reframe the way we look at taking care of ourselves to be also to provide your best self for others.

41:20 Next Season

Alan Stein Jr. shares a story about what he would tell the kids he coached. He would say to the players that before they left for the summer, he would ask them if they wanted win the following year, and after that, he would request that they become better during the off-season. The same applies for all men. Become better for your families and yourself.

42:07 Be Intentaional

Alan Stein Jr. shares some ideas about the intentionality behind your routines.

45:25 Larry’s Morning Routine

Larry shares how he starts his day with some reading assets that only take about 7 minutes

1. Living Faith
2. Daily Light for Men
3. Ryan Holiday’s: The Daily Stoic

46:50 Coach K’s Standards

Alan Stein Jr. shares a principle he learned from Coach K, retired hall of fame coach at Duke. He suggest that you co-create standards with your family. That way, they also have skin in the game and you grow together.

Alan Stein Jr’s Links

• Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/AlanLSteinJr 
• Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/alansteinjr/ 
• Twitter – https://twitter.com/AlanSteinJr 
• Website – https://alansteinjr.com/
• Stonger Team: https://strongerteam.com/