John Kim – Why Your Apologies Don’t Work
Are you staring at your marriage wondering where the spark went?
Do you feel more like roommates than lovers?
Or are you sensing a drift, unsure how to change course?
You’re not alone, and this episode offers a raw and honest look at reigniting connection.
Joining us is John Kim, the no-holds-barred therapist known as The Angry Therapist. A bestselling author and licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, John has built a career on his unapologetically real approach to relationships. His latest book, Break Up On Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth, delves into the subtle signals we miss, the toxic patterns that erode intimacy, and how to rebuild something meaningful, whether you stay together or not.
Imagine this: John joined us for this powerful conversation from the front seat of his car, just days after his house burned down. His commitment to helping others, even amidst personal chaos, speaks volumes.
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In this crucial episode, we unpack:
- The insidious, subtle shifts in daily interactions that silently kill intimacy.
- How well-meaning men can unintentionally slip into “man-child” roles, damaging partnership.
- The common reasons why couples fail to repair after conflict—and concrete steps to take.
- How to step into leadership within your marriage with strength and vulnerability, not dominance.
If you’re married, facing challenges, or simply want to cultivate a more intentional and passionate relationship, John’s insights will challenge your perspective and equip you with actionable steps.
Larry’s Takeaways
- Understand before trying to be understood.
- Avoid character assassination in relationships.
- Respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.
What You’ll Learn
00:00:00 – Introduction
00:00:39 – John Kim’s House Fire and Personal Reflections
00:01:59 – Book Promotion and Personal Journey
00:03:06 – Catalyst for Writing the Book
00:04:37 – Signals of Relationship Trouble
00:06:07 – Mother-Son Dynamic in Relationships
00:09:03 – Disrespectful Jokes and Relationship Impact
00:10:48 – Importance of Speaking Up
00:13:41 – Therapy and Its Misconceptions
00:18:31 – Subtle Character Assassination
00:19:37 – Inability to Repair Rupture
00:20:18 – Good Conflict and Understanding
00:23:18 – Neutral Soil in Arguments
00:27:26 – Proactivity vs. Reactivity in Relationships
00:32:25 – Book Information and Closing Remarks
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